Daniel Białek

In the last few months I completely stopped going to commercial cinemas. Instead, I attend to arthouse cinemas and I don't understand why they are less popular. Firstly, they have some  advantages that should appeal to everybody. At least two tmies cheaper tickets, and far shorter commercials are factors, which should probably be convenient for a person, no matter her favourite cinema style is. Secondly, there is almost nothing you can have in a commercial cinema and can't have  in an arthouse as lots of them have also snacks and show some less ambitious movies. I hope it's not a more peaceful atmosphere that scares people off so much, therefore I believe many people make completely irrational decisions just because some option is better advertised and other people choose it.

A week ago, after I finished school I was traveling by bus. Near the beggining of the ride an stranger asked me to take off his backpack at the next stop and I agreed on this. He was tatty, and  around the age of 50. Right after this, he stood up and began to confess to me the story of his life. He was talking about his education and work career for 10 minutes, while I haven't say a word or look like I care even a little. It made me think about how much we (some people even more than others) like the act of speaking. Speaking, that is not focused on interaction with other person and its' opinion, but where a passive listener is actually a gift. Of course, it's an example from the edge, as there's a man with nothing  to lose and possibly under an influence, but I think it appeals wider, especially when talking about ourselves.

A few weeks ago I played a football match vs Motor Lublin in  Central Youth League. My team started the game really well, but we could not score the goal. I noticed that our advantage haven not influence the opposite team coach, who was giving constructive, encauraging or prasing comments to his team. After our domination the opponent scored a goal, which made our coaches furious. They started to shout agressively and vent their frustration on the team. We started to play worse and we conceded another two goals. It make our coaches resigned and in the second half there was no comment from any of them, which resulted in equalising. This situation has confirmed my conviction about agresive, negative motivation being succesful far more rarely than the opposite one. It usually makes people more stressed and frustrated, especially in situations, where it is certain that a person wants to do as well as it can.